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Is Anxiety a Red Flag?
What to consider when you’re dating someone new.
Ask Wendy: Dating, Sex & Relationship Advice for the Bold
Hey Wendy,
I am confused and hurt by a recent breakup and wanted to get your opinion on what happened. I dated a guy for about a month. We got to know each other, he seemed like everything I could want in a guy, and I felt like our connection was growing stronger with each date.
Because he’d done so much for me, I bought us tickets to see his favorite musician who he’s never seen live before. I was so excited to do this for him and knew we would have a blast. When I got to his house to pick him up for the date he told me he couldn’t go to the concert and he couldn’t date me anymore.
He said he was going through personal stuff and his anxiety was getting to him. He missed where he used to live and only had $2 in his bank account.
He said he had an amazing time with me and then he goes back to feeling unhappy so he decided to end it. I still feel hurt and confused by it all. He had talked about how he has anxiety sometimes but never showed signs of it and seemed to have it under control. I never considered it as a red flag.
Is anxiety a red flag when getting to know someone?
