5 things to remember when you’re dating someone exclusively.

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Ask Wendy: Dating, Sex & Relationship Advice for the Bold

Hey Wendy,

I’ve been dating a guy for two years. We get along great — intellectually, sexually, humor-wise, etc.

We were long-distance as he worked in another state. We talked or texted every day. We saw each other about every 6 weeks.

We never said, “I love you,” and when I brought it up, he said he had trouble expressing his feelings. His actions (driving 7 hours through snow storms to see me, etc.) said he cared so I was okay…


A 3-Part Guide to Moving on Powerfully & Finding Love Again

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Ask Wendy: Dating, Sex & Relationship Advice for the Bold

Hey Wendy,

I’m getting divorced after 20+ years of marriage. Our kids are grown. I just found out he was cheating on me, and now he’s moving in with her. They’ve been together nine months.

While shocked, I’m completely over it and moving on. I don’t feel like there’s anything to say, and I feel free. So, my question is how long should I wait before I start dating? I’m in my forties and I’ve never been taken out…


Dealing with the mindfuck (and fallout) from the number of past lovers.

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Ask Wendy: Dating, Sex & Relationship Advice for the Bold

Hey Wendy,

At the start of dating, my wife told me the number of men she’s had sex with was 3. She’s recently admitted that the real number is 40. How do I not despise her for this? She has been my best friend for a long time, but she has also lied a LOT about sexual things.

Richard N. — Syracuse, NY

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Hey Richard,

Huh! I wonder what I would say to a woman who wrote in with this question:

“When I first met my husband, he asked…


What to do when the love of your life is polyamorous and you are not

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Ask Wendy: Dating, Sex & Relationship Advice for the Bold

Hey Wendy,

The love of my life is a polyamorous woman. I reluctantly accept her lifestyle with the understanding that she will involve me in her encounters somehow (watching, videos, audio, etc.)

The first attempt at this was with a former FWB. She forgot to record anything because things happened too fast. It took everything I had to be ok with this situation. The one thing I asked for she ignored.

When I confront her she starts sobbing saying she’s sorry. I don’t know what to do.

David B.

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The predictable steps you’re likely to take on your journey to finding love.

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I went on 121 first dates before I found my love. Can you even imagine? And I discovered there are ten predictable stages to dating.

Not everyone experiences all of them, or even in order. But understanding what to expect can help you navigate the tricky and sometimes insidious dating landscape.

Are you ready to dive in? Let’s do this!

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Ready to date means you’re probably in one of two camps. You’re either…

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Learn why you should try both paths to finding love.

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Ask Wendy: Dating, Sex & Relationship Advice for the Bold

Hey Wendy,

It’s been years since I went on a real date. I have been too occupied with work and other life things to date or make the first step.

Would you suggest just getting out around people as a first step in just meeting people, or would something like going on a dating app to meet people work?

Monica P.

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Hey Monica,

I recommend you get in the habit of doing both.

You want to get (and stay)…


When you want exclusivity but you want your date to offer it first.

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Ask Wendy: Dating, Sex & Relationship Advice for the Bold

Hey Wendy,

I put myself back in the world of online dating. I’ve been dating a lot of different guys, but there’s one that’s a standout. We’ve had six dates, but I’m still dating others. This guy seems to really like me. He’s mentioned me to important people in his life, and he wants to take me to the family cabin in Tahoe.

Here’s my question: I really like him and don’t particularly want to date other…


Dealing with reoccurring themes and patterns in your love life.

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Ask Wendy: Dating, Sex & Relationship Advice for the Bold

Hey Wendy,

For 25 years, I was married to a physically and verbally abusive man. As I was about to file for divorce, I became seriously ill. When I recovered, he got terminal cancer and reacted with anger directed at me. I cared for him until he died. Yet, even in the last week of his life, he threatened to kill me.

About a year after he died I went on several dates: One was so rude I should have…


When throwing them back into the sea is a better bet than another try.

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Ask Wendy: Dating, Sex & Relationship Advice for the Bold

Hey Wendy,

Should I reach back out to my ex-boyfriend to see if he’s open to trying again?

My relationship ended last month, with a guy whom I thought was “the one”. I wasn’t expecting the breakup, and needless to say, was heartbroken.

I mailed him a closure letter, and he actually mailed me one back. It was a very kind note, explaining that his breakup with me was not logical. …


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Ask Wendy: Dating, Sex & Relationship Advice for the Bold

Hey Wendy,

My fiancé wants me to go to concerts, but I don’t want to go. Live music is super important to him. He’s even willing to fly for a concert, and I can’t imagine doing that. He makes more than I do, and I feel like this is not in my budget. I would happily see music if we could drive there, but our music scene isn’t the best.

He’s very upset that none of his friends can go to a music festival with him. Now he wants me…

Wendy Newman

Dating, Sex & Relationship Expert and Author of 121 First Dates (Simon & Schuster). Over 70,000 women trust Wendy’s advice, tools, & experience. WendySpeaks.com

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