5 things to remember when you’re dating someone exclusively.

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Ask Wendy: Dating, Sex & Relationship Advice for the Bold

Hey Wendy,

I’ve been dating a guy for two years. We get along great — intellectually, sexually, humor-wise, etc.

We were long-distance as he worked in another state. We talked or texted every day. We saw each other about every 6 weeks.

We never said, “I love you,” and when I brought it up, he said he had trouble expressing his feelings. His actions (driving 7 hours through snow storms to see me, etc.) said he cared so I was okay…


A 3-Part Guide to Moving on Powerfully & Finding Love Again

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Ask Wendy: Dating, Sex & Relationship Advice for the Bold

Hey Wendy,

I’m getting divorced after 20+ years of marriage. Our kids are grown. I just found out he was cheating on me, and now he’s moving in with her. They’ve been together nine months.

While shocked, I’m completely over it and moving on. I don’t feel like there’s anything to say, and I feel free. So, my question is how long should I wait before I start dating? I’m in my forties and I’ve never been taken out…


Dealing with the mindfuck (and fallout) from the number of past lovers.

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Ask Wendy: Dating, Sex & Relationship Advice for the Bold

Hey Wendy,

At the start of dating, my wife told me the number of men she’s had sex with was 3. She’s recently admitted that the real number is 40. How do I not despise her for this? She has been my best friend for a long time, but she has also lied a LOT about sexual things.

Richard N. — Syracuse, NY

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Hey Richard,

Huh! I wonder what I would say to a woman who wrote in with this question:

“When I first met my husband, he asked…


What to do when the love of your life is polyamorous and you are not

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Ask Wendy: Dating, Sex & Relationship Advice for the Bold

Hey Wendy,

The love of my life is a polyamorous woman. I reluctantly accept her lifestyle with the understanding that she will involve me in her encounters somehow (watching, videos, audio, etc.)

The first attempt at this was with a former FWB. She forgot to record anything because things happened too fast. It took everything I had to be ok with this situation. The one thing I asked for she ignored.

When I confront her she starts sobbing saying she’s sorry. I don’t know what to do.

David B.

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The predictable steps you’re likely to take on your journey to finding love.

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I went on 121 first dates before I found my love. Can you even imagine? And I discovered there are ten predictable stages to dating.

Not everyone experiences all of them, or even in order. But understanding what to expect can help you navigate the tricky and sometimes insidious dating landscape.

Are you ready to dive in? Let’s do this!

#1 Ready to Date

Ready to date means you’re probably in one of two camps. You’re either…

Eager & Enthusiastic, as in you’ve finally ditched that going-nowhere-for-way-too-long relationship, or the ink…


Dating is a sorting process, one value at a time.

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Ask Wendy: Dating, Sex & Relationship Advice for the Bold

Hey Wendy,

What is the difference between a red flag and what you call a pink post-it note?

I’m dating someone who votes a very different way than I do. I thought him casting that last presidential vote would be a deal-breaker. But I’m not sure it is. I’m staying because he treats me like gold and I like him. Am I selling out?

Anna S.

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Hey Anna,

I’m glad that your guy treats you like gold. That’s a…


And why, exactly, people just aren’t efforting…

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Ask Wendy: Dating, Sex & Relationship Advice for the Bold

Today’s Ask Wendy is a twofer…

Hey Wendy,

I’ve noticed an increase in drop-offs from guys on dating apps when I suggest we move from text to a phone call. It seems like a reasonable way to get to know someone before setting up a date. Part of me thinks well, if they can’t participate in one phone call or zoom meeting, then just move on; however, since this is happening often, it’s making me pause and question my strategy. Where are the…


Examining the instincts of humans everywhere.

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Ask Wendy: Dating, Sex & Relationship Advice for the Bold

Hey Wendy,

I’ve heard you say that most men would have a woman’s back if she needed help.

Why? What is a man’s motive to help a woman who is in need? What is he expecting to receive in return?

Bruce B.

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Hey Bruce,

In 20 years of my work – understanding men and reltionships, ’ve never been asked “why do men…?” by a man. Cool. Thank you for trusting me.

It’s true. I’ve been known to say, “most men would have a woman’s back if she needed help.”…


How much is too much when it comes to your mate…

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Ask Wendy: Dating, Sex & Relationship Advice for the Bold

Hey Wendy,

My boyfriend doesn’t like witchcraft and says it’s against his religion. I’ve thought about it for years and I want to read and learn more about it first to see if it’s something I might like. I asked my boyfriend to get me a book called “The Green Witch” and he said that I can’t read it or get into anything like that and he won’t allow it in his house. …


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Ask Wendy: Dating, Sex & Relationship Advice for the Bold

Hey Wendy,

I’m 34, single, and three and a half months pregnant. I’m ready for the next chapter of my life to start, and I was thinking of joining a dating site. But now I’m wondering if it’s wrong. What do you think?

Amanda T.

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Hey Amanda,

Congratulations!

The short answer is no, it is not wrong to date — online or otherwise — as a pregnant woman. And you won’t be the first.

Lead with your belly

All I ask is that you say so somewhere in the first two paragraphs of…

Wendy Newman

Dating, Sex & Relationship Expert and Author of 121 First Dates (Simon & Schuster). Over 70,000 women trust Wendy’s advice, tools, & experience. WendySpeaks.com

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