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5 things to remember when you’re dating someone exclusively.

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Ask Wendy: Dating, Sex & Relationship Advice for the Bold

Hey Wendy,

I’ve been dating a guy for two years. We get along great — intellectually, sexually, humor-wise, etc.

We were long-distance as he worked in another state. We talked or texted every day. We saw each other about every 6 weeks.

We never said, “I love you,” and when I brought it up, he said he had trouble expressing his feelings. His actions (driving 7 hours through snow storms to see me, etc.) said he cared so I was okay…


A 3-Part Guide to Moving on Powerfully & Finding Love Again

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Ask Wendy: Dating, Sex & Relationship Advice for the Bold

Hey Wendy,

I’m getting divorced after 20+ years of marriage. Our kids are grown. I just found out he was cheating on me, and now he’s moving in with her. They’ve been together nine months.

While shocked, I’m completely over it and moving on. I don’t feel like there’s anything to say, and I feel free. So, my question is how long should I wait before I start dating? I’m in my forties and I’ve never been taken out…


Dealing with the mindfuck (and fallout) from the number of past lovers.

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Ask Wendy: Dating, Sex & Relationship Advice for the Bold

Hey Wendy,

At the start of dating, my wife told me the number of men she’s had sex with was 3. She’s recently admitted that the real number is 40. How do I not despise her for this? She has been my best friend for a long time, but she has also lied a LOT about sexual things.

Richard N. — Syracuse, NY

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Hey Richard,

Huh! I wonder what I would say to a woman who wrote in with this question:

“When I first met my husband, he asked…


What to do when the love of your life is polyamorous and you are not

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Ask Wendy: Dating, Sex & Relationship Advice for the Bold

Hey Wendy,

The love of my life is a polyamorous woman. I reluctantly accept her lifestyle with the understanding that she will involve me in her encounters somehow (watching, videos, audio, etc.)

The first attempt at this was with a former FWB. She forgot to record anything because things happened too fast. It took everything I had to be ok with this situation. The one thing I asked for she ignored.

When I confront her she starts sobbing saying she’s sorry. I don’t know what to do.

David B.

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The predictable steps you’re likely to take on your journey to finding love.

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I went on 121 first dates before I found my love. Can you even imagine? And I discovered there are ten predictable stages to dating.

Not everyone experiences all of them, or even in order. But understanding what to expect can help you navigate the tricky and sometimes insidious dating landscape.

Are you ready to dive in? Let’s do this!

#1 Ready to Date

Ready to date means you’re probably in one of two camps. You’re either…

Eager & Enthusiastic, as in you’ve finally ditched that going-nowhere-for-way-too-long relationship, or the ink…


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Ask Wendy: Dating, Sex & Relationship Advice for the Bold

Hey Wendy,

I’m very shy and submissive. How can I find a domineering woman?

Dan S.

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Hey Dan,

Being a shy person in the dating world is hard, as I’m sure you already know. Putting yourself out there to find the right woman for you will take action on your part that may feel difficult and awkward, but without taking these steps, it’s unlikely you’ll find who you’re looking for.

STEP #1: Be Willing to Be Uncomfortable

So, the first bit of advice I have for you is be…


Should you? Or are things best left just as they are?

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Ask Wendy: Dating, Sex & Relationship Advice for the Bold

Hey Wendy,

I’ve been in a polyamorous relationship with a wonderful man for the last three and a half years. We don’t live together because we are both married to other people, and everyone likes each other, so there’s no problem there.

Here’s my dilemma: I’m working in New York in December and January. My boyfriend will be visiting his family for the holidays in New York. He’s asked me to meet his parents as his girlfriend. I’m kinda freaked out. I think saying “no” to him sends the wrong…


How to navigate your relationship when your sub wants to top you.

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Hey Wendy,

I don’t know if you can help me here, but I need some advice with my Dominant/Submissive (dom/sub) relationship.

My girlfriend and I have been together for seven years. From the beginning, I’ve been the dom and she has been my sub. Recently we had a heart-to-heart where she expressed she’s no longer happy being the sub, and instead wants to switch our relationship around and flip the power dynamics so she’s the dom and I’m the sub.

Could this transition work? I’m rather apprehensive, to…


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Ask Wendy: Dating, Sex & Relationship Advice for the Bold

Hey Wendy,

You say there are plenty of quality men available to date; even for us women who are over 50. But I’m not seeing them… anywhere!

True, I don’t live in a highly-populated area, but even online there are very few men in my search area. And I’ve expanded my search to 3 hours’ drive away.

The closest I’ve even come to dating is with a lovely man who lives 8 hours away. …


Solid first date questions for winning at dating to find your love.

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Ask Wendy: Dating, Sex & Relationship Advice for the Bold

Hey Wendy,

It seems like I’m screwing up dating lately. When I first meet the guy, he likes me but by the end of the date, he’s out. Some of them say, “It’s not you, it’s me” but I’m pretty sure it’s me. Could you give me advice on what to say (or not say) on a first date to make it to a second one?

Terry D.

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Hey Terry,

I’m curious to know what your top 3 date topics are…

Do you start with, “My ex-husband is the…

Wendy Newman

Dating, Sex & Relationship Expert and Author of 121 First Dates (Simon & Schuster). Over 70,000 women trust Wendy’s advice, tools, & experience. WendySpeaks.com

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