5 things to remember when you’re dating someone exclusively.

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Ask Wendy: Dating, Sex & Relationship Advice for the Bold

Hey Wendy,

I’ve been dating a guy for two years. We get along great — intellectually, sexually, humor-wise, etc.

We were long-distance as he worked in another state. We talked or texted every day. We saw each other about every 6 weeks.

We never said, “I love you,” and when I brought it up, he said he had trouble expressing his feelings. His actions (driving 7 hours through snow storms to see me, etc.) said he cared so I was okay…


A 3-Part Guide to Moving on Powerfully & Finding Love Again

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Ask Wendy: Dating, Sex & Relationship Advice for the Bold

Hey Wendy,

I’m getting divorced after 20+ years of marriage. Our kids are grown. I just found out he was cheating on me, and now he’s moving in with her. They’ve been together nine months.

While shocked, I’m completely over it and moving on. I don’t feel like there’s anything to say, and I feel free. So, my question is how long should I wait before I start dating? I’m in my forties and I’ve never been taken out…


Dealing with the mindfuck (and fallout) from the number of past lovers.

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Ask Wendy: Dating, Sex & Relationship Advice for the Bold

Hey Wendy,

At the start of dating, my wife told me the number of men she’s had sex with was 3. She’s recently admitted that the real number is 40. How do I not despise her for this? She has been my best friend for a long time, but she has also lied a LOT about sexual things.

Richard N. — Syracuse, NY

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Hey Richard,

Huh! I wonder what I would say to a woman who wrote in with this question:

“When I first met my husband, he asked…


What to do when the love of your life is polyamorous and you are not

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Ask Wendy: Dating, Sex & Relationship Advice for the Bold

Hey Wendy,

The love of my life is a polyamorous woman. I reluctantly accept her lifestyle with the understanding that she will involve me in her encounters somehow (watching, videos, audio, etc.)

The first attempt at this was with a former FWB. She forgot to record anything because things happened too fast. It took everything I had to be ok with this situation. The one thing I asked for she ignored.

When I confront her she starts sobbing saying she’s sorry. I don’t know what to do.

David B.

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The predictable steps you’re likely to take on your journey to finding love.

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I went on 121 first dates before I found my love. Can you even imagine? And I discovered there are ten predictable stages to dating.

Not everyone experiences all of them, or even in order. But understanding what to expect can help you navigate the tricky and sometimes insidious dating landscape.

Are you ready to dive in? Let’s do this!

#1 Ready to Date

Ready to date means you’re probably in one of two camps. You’re either…

Eager & Enthusiastic, as in you’ve finally ditched that going-nowhere-for-way-too-long relationship, or the ink…


3 best practices for a happy, healthy relationship

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Ask Wendy: Dating, Sex & Relationship Advice for the Bold

Hey Wendy

I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 15 months. We have a lot going for us and we are both super attracted to one another.

He has quite a history with the ladies. He said he thinks that he slept with over 150 women, and he is 48 yrs. old.

Over time, I’ve discovered he has close to 50 ex-girlfriends and/or ex-lovers as Facebook friends. He’s close to four or five of his ex-girlfriends. …


You have the freedom to design your relationship(s) any damned way you’d like.

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Hey Wendy,

When it comes to life, I’ve been there, done that: Married, kids, divorce, Burning Man, threesomes, role play, anal, public sex, etc.

I am happy and busy in my single life, but I have a very high libido. Vibrators are great, but there is no comparison to sex with the right guy.

“Traditional” relationships don’t work for me, so I would like to find a sex partner. The focus would be on taking our time to satisfy each other in a variety of ways (and sex positions). I don’t want marriage, or to live with anyone, or blend…


Who’s Right for You–a Jeff Bezos, a Stedman Graham, or a Bagel Boy?

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Ask Wendy: Dating, Sex & Relationship Advice for the Bold

Hey Wendy,

I’m a doctor who owns her own practice. I also own twelve houses. I’m financially very successful. I’m fortunate with a net worth of over ten million dollars. Is it realistic to ask for a guy with equal net worth or education?

Rita L.

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Hey Rita,

Congratulations on using your talents and education to make a successful life for yourself. Big kudos!

I’m guessing you’ve already learned that success and status bring with them…


And Love Blossoms…

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Ask Wendy: Dating, Sex & Relationship Advice for the Bold

Hey Wendy,

The new guy I’m dating is amazing, smart, and funny. So far, we’ve been on five dates. He talks more than me, which is fine because I love listening to him. He’s very outgoing and I’m kind of an introvert. He’s cultured and has traveled all over the world and has had adventures I couldn’t even dream of. We’re kind of opposites.

When he asks me what I’ve done, I want to tell him something more exciting than I just finished the last book in…


You start with an upward spiral and a determination to keep it going.

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Ask Wendy: Dating, Sex & Relationship Advice for the Bold

Hey Wendy,

I set up an online profile and I’m getting plenty of responses even though I’m a middle-aged, single mom with a five-year-old boy. I am awesome!

I’ve been corresponding with a guy with potential. Thanks to you, I recognized that I couldn’t keep him at a distance any longer by writing and texting and I’ve connected with him by phone. I’m excited and terrified to get to know him.

Here’s the problem…Five years ago, I…

Wendy Newman

Dating, Sex & Relationship Expert and Author of 121 First Dates (Simon & Schuster). Over 70,000 women trust Wendy’s advice, tools, & experience. WendySpeaks.com

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